January 2011
15 posts
Sex is a good thing. It must be, if God created it! The only way to keep it a “good thing” is to follow God’s guidelines. God will reward you if you choose to honor Him, and save sex for its proper time and place — your marriage.
“But we’re going to be married anyway” is another common excuse. Along with being presumptuous, this stance will almost certainly leave one question unanswered: If one gives in to moral temptation before marriage, what’s to stop him or her from giving in to moral temptation once married?
God created sex, and therefore it is reasonable to expect that it is good. But when man distorts it by ignoring God’s specific standards, it becomes harmful and destructive. So the question “why save sex for marriage” is really a question of understanding God’s purpose and design for sex. We can choose to do things God’s way, and experience the beauty of His plan, or we can...
Sin always damages a person’s relationship with his God. Intentional disobedience of God’s command to not commit adultery dishonors and displeases Him. Conversely, God is pleased when His children choose obedience and self-control instead of the immediacy of pleasure.
If a person has not carried sexual purity into marriage, his or her marriage relationship is affected by the past. If a man or woman has previously had sex with someone else, their marital intimacy has already been affected. One or both spouses will have to deal with real or perceived comparisons with “former lovers” and feeling that intimacy was not important enough for the other person to...
“But we’re in love!” some might say. Maybe so, but if one believes in God’s definition of love, he must realize that love is patient and kind; it does not seek to please itself, nor does it delight in evil, but is always hopeful (1 Corinthians 13). True love would be patient in waiting for the proper time for sex.
Sex outside of marriage damages the relationship between the persons involved. Trust is the main issue here. If two people do not cherish sex enough to wait for a marriage commitment, how can they trust one another for fidelity? Conversely, a man and woman build trust and respect for one another when they both survive the struggles of self-control — each will have the confidence that the...
“Safe sex” is more accurately described as “reduced risk sex.” The only truly safe sex is abstinence.
True love would be unselfish in placing God’s desires and the needs of others above itself. It would not delight in the evil of disobedience, nor would it force another to disobey God. Love could never be a reason for premarital sex; rather, it should be one of the greatest reasons to avoid premarital sex.
If the Bible’s message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, and gives sexual relations the proper value.
I am absolutely positive that some of my friends are still in their relationships because of sex. People are likely to endure all kinds of bad treatment for a connection. Having sex with someone, whether you intend it to do so or not, causes you to develop a connection with them. It is difficult for people to give that up and have to work on creating another connection.
I believe it is immoral to have sex before marriage. However, this is not just a matter of religion. God didn’t just randomly make some things sins. There’s a logic to them. Having sex before marriage is only going to cloud the relationship with passion and prevent you from really getting to know the person. What happens when the “in love” phase fades away? What will the...
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“If you want to be rebellious, be pure. Society tells you to do otherwise.”
“Sex before marriage is wrong from a Biblical and moral position. Those who wait...”
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