January 2012
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Abstinence is very important for relationships. If two people wait until they are ready then it makes for a happier and more healthy relationship. There is more trust, less emotional baggage, and more respect. If someone respects themselves and their morals they will get more respect back.
Since sex became easier to get, love became harder...
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One reason God tells us to honor marriage and keep the marriage bed pure has to do with baggage. We carry baggage into our sexual relationships. Memories from the past, emotional scars and unwanted mental images can defile our thoughts and make the marriage bed less than pure. Certainly God can forgive the past, but that doesn’t mean we’re free from the baggage that can linger in our...
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Sometimes a girl is love-hungry, and she mistakes a man’s sex desire for the love she is looking for. She gives in to him. All too often, the guy does not really love her or respect her as a person. He wants sex and she is available, so he uses her to get what he wants. After awhile, he gets tired of her. She has nowhere to go in her search for love but to another guy who is looking for sex. She...
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There’s something very special about a couple’s first time. In this physical act the two become one flesh. Yet it is more than just physical oneness — a spiritual union takes place. God planned for this exclusive experience of discovery and pleasure to happen only within the intimacy of marriage. If we don’t wait, we miss out on a very special blessing from God.
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Most boys and girls these days indulge in the ‘act’ simply because everybody else does it. And once they have done it due to peer pressure, they start to become empty shells of their former selves. By abstaining from sex until marriage, people will respect you for your personality. So, go ahead and break the mold…it really is passé to move with the herd.
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The entire notion of “testing the waters” before getting married is pretty much telling God, “I don’t trust you to send me a man who understands my every need so I need to test this one out to make sure.”
December 2011
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mrskakacarol asked: Hi! Love your blog! Keep it up! <3
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When sex is practiced outside of marriage, you are misusing it and there are personal and interpersonal consequences. Sex outside of marriage is incomplete, because it doesn’t have a binding union as its basis. So when you have sex outside of marriage, what you are really saying is, “I want to have physical union with you, but not the entanglements of any other kind of binding union.” Most people...
Anonymous asked: Hi, My boyfriend and I have done oral sex a couple times. We know our boundaries and will not do anything else until marriage. I have tried to find out if this is wrong, there seems to be like a grey line here. I have been on so many Christian websites to find out, to look at others questions about it and it is never said directly that is it wrong. We don't want to dishonour God, our...
October 2011
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“I want to be with one person in my life. I want to know that the guy I spend the...”
– Randa Abdel-Fattah
September 2011
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“If I were to meet a woman who was still a virgin (and there are plenty my age),...”
– Jason Evert
August 2011
6 posts
pprettymethis asked: This is an amazing blog. Please keep it up. :)
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There is a serious misconception in our society today that purity equals weakness. That is not true at all. Purity builds strength and character. Purity gives life purpose and joy. Purity grabs hold of our reckless emotions and helps us to focus and see life more clearly. Purity does not give into momentary weakness, but it looks to long term positive impact. Purity gives respect and...
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Found that ‘perfect person’? Don’t be fooled! People who have sex before marriage run a risk of marrying someone who is not right for them. Sexual intimacy can be emotionally blinding and it makes couples feel closer than they really are. One counselor put it perfectly by saying, “Real love can stand the test of time without physical intimacy.”
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One of the wrong ideas concerning sex is that it is just a physical thrill to be enjoyed with whomever you choose. This makes sex cheap and meaningless, and it disregards certain facts about how we are made. Sex is not just a physical act. In sexual intercourse, you and the other person become one. It is such an intimate experience that a part of you remains forever with the other person. When...
m-e-l-a-n-c-h-o-l-y asked: Thanks for liking my post! Your blog is interesting! :)
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Sex is so special it deserves a special home. It’s most meaningful, most fulfilling, when it’s part of something bigger—a continuing, loving relationship between two human beings. When you’re married, your sexual intimacy expresses your total commitment to each other. You’re saying with your body, “I give myself to you, completely.” Not being totally committed changes the meaning of the sex act....
July 2011
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theashcroftmoon asked: I really, really love this blog.
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What if I feel like I need to have sex to save the...
If you feel this way, you are in the wrong relationship. I don’t have to tell you this; your heart is probably saying it already. The hard truth of your situation is that having sex will not save the relationship permanently; it will just buy you a little more time…and then it will end anyway. Imagine how you’ll feel then…if you sacrifice your noble mission and lose the relationship…your...
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Why I Stayed a Virgin Until Marriage
By Beth Brennan When I met Jack, I felt pretty much every romantic, clichéd feeling ever — fireworks crackling, the imaginary sound of opera music, weak knees … the whole nine. I decided when I was young that I wanted to wait for sex until I fell in love. The problem was, that being an incurable romantic often means being incurably picky. Oh, I dated — a lot. But if I...
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Sometimes it’s tough to see far enough in the future. Who can? Yet, we make choices that will change how the future will be. Wisdom means to choose now what will make sense later.
This is most important in our relationships that can really affect our health and happiness. While today’s youth are facing temptations to have sex earlier and not face any consequences, deep down you know that...
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The Power of Self-Esteem
One of the biggest factors that lead young people to have sex early and outside of marriage is low self-esteem. Many feel they should give into the pressures of sex so they don’t hurt anyone’s feelings or because they feel it is something they “should just do”. And many times they really aren’t ready to take such a big step. Self-esteem can give you the power to say...
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The Reactions that Guys Will Have When You Tell...
Put off This look reflects the thought: “urgh, seriously?” Then he runs a mile away, cuts off all contact, and avoids you like the plague. You should realize that he really isn’t worth any of your time if you aren’t worth any of his. You can tell from his reaction that he was much more interested in sex than in any kind of emotional connection. This often represents immaturity (and/or shallowness)...
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Breaking the Mold
Einstein said that the definition of insanity was “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Think of all the things in this age that are the same: Most people have sex before marriage. For most people, the divorce rate is above 50%. Most people complain of sexless, bland marriages that are sad, neutered versions of their pre-marriage relationships. Most people...
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A Great Example To Your Kids
Most parents get stuck on this dilemma: How do I make them do what I say, and not what I did when I was their age? Parents had their youth. They had their teenage sex and their pot smoking and all the trouble. Then they grow up, have kids, and suddenly get serious about morals and values.
But here’s the problem, you can tell your kids what you think they should do, but ultimately what you did...
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A Deeper, More Committed Bond with Your Spouse
At the heart of sex is a sense of ownership. When you have sex with someone, you give them a little piece of yourself that they will forever own. But here’s the catch: You only have so many pieces to give away in this fashion, before you grow numb to the process; the pieces stop feeling as important. And when you get married, you will give whatever pieces you have left.
Waiting till marriage...
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A Sex-Filled Marriage
Many non-waiting people report that sex declines in frequency after the honeymoon. This is so common that it’s become a cliché…a joke that married men perpetuate. They will say things like “Yeah…we had sex all the time back when we were dating, but once you’re married…forget about it.” If you gather together all of the world’s stand-up comedians and say to them “no more jokes about married men...
alwaysmore asked: You guys are doing a good thing here.
I often feel that it's hard to be a virgin in today's society with so many of my friends and people at school talking about their gratuitous sex lives. It makes me feel silly and inexperienced, but I just found some friends who believe waiting is the thing to do, and this blog totally reinforces that. So thank you.
I often feel that it's hard to be a virgin in today's society with so many of my friends and people at school talking about their gratuitous sex lives. It makes me feel silly and inexperienced, but I just found some friends who believe waiting is the thing to do, and this blog totally reinforces that. So thank you.
June 2011
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“I guess 26 is kind of old to lose your virginity, but it was important to me...”
– LeeLee Sobieski
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Meaningful Relationships
At the heart of waiting till marriage is a yearning for greater meaning in all things, most of all marriage.
This end-goal of a more meaningful marriage will trickle down into the friendship/dating relationships you have leading up to marriage as well. People who wait till marriage tend to prioritize meaningfulness in all relationships much more than other people.
One night stands, casual...
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As you grow older, you will live to see people get shot down in flames. You will see friends catch awful sexually-transmitted diseases, and you will sense their sudden, inescapable devastation, as if they’ve been branded for life — and they have. You will see friends get pregnant accidentally, far too young; and watch as it totally stalls and redirects the course of their young life. You will...
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There’s a lot of controversy surrounding the idea of waiting till marriage for sex. Lots of people will try to argue you out of it. But for all the people that will tell you that you’re being naive or that you’re making too big a deal out of sex, or that you’re being stupid — none of them will say that waiting isn’t hard, and none of them will say that waiting isn’t noble. And that defines the...
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An Incredible Wedding Day and Night
Most people do not wait until marriage to have sex. However, when those people reach their wedding day, many often suddenly wish that they had waited.
With some couples, one person (usually the girl) will even go as far as to cut off sex a few months (or even a year) before the wedding, so they can “wait” until the big day and then start having sex again. Again, the guys will gripe about his:...
April 2011
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Waiting until the honeymoon can help to build up your desire for one another. If you have sex every night, your wedding may not be special. Time can help to build up desire. Your wedding night should be a night of deep passion and sensuality, and if you wait, you won’t be able to keep your hands off of your new spouse.
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You’ll have no regrets. Not every engagement, unfortunately, ends in marriage. Sex is something that should be shared lovingly with another person, and by waiting until marriage, you can be sure that you’re giving your virginity to the person who really does matter most in your life
electricgrapes asked: hey i came across this site and thought you'd be interested. I'm trying to spread the word because I think its great that FINALLY someone who isn't already married is telling us to wait and telling us all the benefits. Anyway, hopefully you'll post the link or something. I want more people to be aware that other people are in the same boat as them :)...
March 2011
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“My virginity was something I had decided was very precious, something that I...”
– Lisa Kudrow, actress
“It’s easy to have sex. The mature people, the ones that make something of...”
“Abstinence doesn’t really have anything to do with a person’s religious...”
– A.C. Green, NBA All-Star
Dad-isms: Things I've Learned So Far: An open... →
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It is sad and increasingly disturbing to read the number of letters and messages I receive from mostly young women (and women alike) that are getting burned by guys after having sex.
Forget for a second the fact that you can catch a disease or make a baby from the activity…what I would like to talk about is the quietly obnoxious heart issue and pain that people pretend doesn’t...
February 2011
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Risk of Unplanned Pregnancy
The choice to have sex brings with it the responsibility of becoming a parent. Regardless of whatever form of birth control you use, every time you have sex you risk getting pregnant (or getting someone else pregnant). If you’re not ready to be pregnant, you’re not ready for sex. Neither condoms nor birth control pills nor any other form of contraceptive are 100 percent effective...
Fear of rejection from the opposite sex
This is a hard fear for many people to face especially when the odds seem to be against them. I say that the odds “seem” to be against them because statistics claim that men think about sex almost twice as much as women do. Therefore, the average woman may believe that she may find herself getting dumped by many men once she tells them that she is waiting to have sex until...
Basically, waiting for marriage is a sacrifice. You sacrifice the right now for what you really want. You may want many things that come with waiting to have sex until you get married. You may want a husband or wife who knows that he or she has been the only one who knows the most private things about you. You may want to remain a pure and holy temple before God. You may want to ensure that...
Choosing abstinence until marriage not only protects you, it gives you the opportunity to develop a meaningful, loving relationship with your future spouse. It may be difficult to not give in to the pressures to have sex. Your friends will claim to be having sex and it’s made to look so common and acceptable on TV and in the movies. But choosing to wait, is your choice, and no one else...
“Trust me, after you have sex you’re going to want to experience it with other people.” Think of kissing. If you’re over the age of 17, you’ve probably had a few relationships that involved kissing. Now, think back to when you were dating somebody that you were totally crazy about. Think about all the times you were kissing them. Did you ever think “I really want to experience this...